A photograph of two men, cowboy-hatted and -booted and discreetly holding hands, is the departure point in a groundbreaking study on masculinity and homosexuality in Mexico. Just Between Us,
an ethnography of intimacy and affection between men, explores the concept of masculine identity and homoeroticism, expressing the difficulties men face in maintaining their masculinity while
expressing intimacy and affection.
This is really one of the most moving pieces of scholarship I have read in a long time, and it stands to change how we think about men's pleasures, subjectivation, and sense of belonging.
—Carlos Ulises Decena, author of Tacit Subject: Belonging and Same-Sex Desire among Dominican Immigrant Men
This book's ambitions are to demonstrate that masculinities in the Sonoran mountain region are constructed under a code of conduct that while depending on traditional patriarchal values opens the possibility of enjoying male-to-male affection and intimacy.
—Hector Dominguez Ruvalcaba, author of Gender Violence at the U.S.-Mexico Border: Media Representation and Public Response
Using fieldwork from rural Sonora, Mexico, Guillermo Nuñez Noriega posits that men accept this intimacy outside gender categories and stereotypes, despite
the traditional patriarchal society. This work contests homophobia and the heterosexual ideal of men and attempts to break down the barriers between genders.
The photograph Nuñez Noriega uses
to explore the shifting attitudes and perceptions of sexuality and gender provokes more questions than answers. Recognizing the societal regulations at play, the author demonstrates the existence in
contemporary Mexico of an invisible regime of power that constructs and regulates the field of possibilities for men's social actions, especially acts of friendship, affection, and eroticism with
other men. The work investigates "modes of speaking" about being a man, on being gay, on the implicit meanings of the words homosexual, masculine, trade, fairy, and others—words that construct
possibilities for intimacy, particularly affective and erotic intimacy among men.
Multiple variants of homoeroticism fall outside the dominant model, Nuñez Noriega argues, a finding that
offers many lessons on men and masculine identities. This book challenges patriarchal definitions of sex, gender, and identity; it promotes the unlearning of dominant conventions of masculinity to
allow new ways of being.